You’re tired. You’re frustrated. Your mind is spinning in circles. You can’t sleep, despite feeling so tired. Why is this happening?
Your mind is telling your body that something isn’t right. Rather than ignore the signals, tap into your subconscious to untangle the root of the problem.
Here are five ways to cope with stress when you’re paralyzed by overwhelm.
Blow the Whistle
There’s a referee in your mind telling you to stop whatever it is you’re doing. To stop ruminating over the same thoughts. To stop doubting yourself. To stop blaming yourself.
When I’m feeling bad, I find solace in Guided Meditation channels on Youtube. My favorites are run by Lauren Ostrowski Fenton and Michael Sealey. They have the most relaxing, calm Australian voices. I absolutely love the sound of running water, so I gravitate toward ocean sounds and rain drops.
Sometimes I’ll put a few dabs of lavender oil on my pillow. I’ll envision myself running through a field of lavender in France, twirling about Laura Ingalls-style.
Literally and figuratively. Step away from the clutter. Offload the chaos to someone else for a minute. Put on your noise blocking headphones and just escape in your mind. Find a dark, quiet spot in your house where no one will disturb you.
Be alone with your thoughts. Switch your focus to a detail in the room, like the tiles on the wall or the light of your clock. Doing so will reset your thinking from big picture scenarios to little things you never noticed.
Think about other little things in your life. Things you may have never noticed. Feel the wheels turning in a more positive direction.
Pet Your Dog (or cat, or parakeet)
Animals are our companions. They don’t judge. If you’re fortunate enough to have an animal who loves you unconditionally, tap into it. You’ll immediately start to feel the effects of their loving energy.
If you don’t have a pet, perhaps you have a child with a small stuffed animal. Tap into a younger version of yourself who connected with the simple comforts of a toy.
Focus on the Things You Can Control
Lower your expectations. Stress is often a result of trying to do the impossible. It’s okay to tell people “No.”
Whatever it is, they can handle it.
Moms especially tend to overanalyze what’s happening because we are collectors of “invisible tasks.” Things no one else notices. Our minds are essentially non-stop turntables of to-do lists, and we feel guilty when we have trouble keeping it all together.
When the control freak in me wants to do it all, I end up feeling burned out.
Tell loved ones what you’re going through. Share your feelings so they can better understand how to help you. Tap into their help as much as you need.
We all have moments of worry and self-doubt. You are stronger than the worry.
Take a deep breath. Acknowledge the stress. Reset your thoughts. Write down your thoughts, if that helps. Only you know what is going to help you get through this time.
Self-care is more than just eating right, exercising, and getting enough sleep. So much more.
Self-care is finding ways to nurture your whole heart and soul.
Share your thoughts in the comment section below if you agree.
Know there are many others who feel your struggle. If your thoughts are pervasive and consistently negative, talk to someone who can help.